Marriage Will Humble Some of Us
You know how they—and by they, I mean books, relationship gurus, preachers, and every married person who suddenly becomes a marriage coach—always say that marriage reveals you? That every single habit, from the cute to the cringeworthy, will be on full display for your partner?
I mean, if they all say the same thing, there’s got to be some truth to it, right? (Well, what do I know? I’ve never been married.)
But the thought hit me the other day:
So you mean to tell me that all of my quirks—the spontaneous tweaking, the dramatic singing voice impersonations, the bathroom and kitchen concerts, the unnecessary-but-necessary happy dances for no reason—will all be fully exposed? Every little habit I’ve cultivated, whether intentionally or accidentally, will have a front-row seat in my future husband’s daily life?
And let’s not even get started on the less charming ones I’m still actively working on. The “I’ll hang these clothes later” chair pile? The occasional emotional breakdown over not getting what I want when I want it? The fact that I will 100% start a movie and use 2 to 3 days to complete it just cos its an hour plus or too boring?
Yeah, marriage is about to humble some of us.
But now, I can’t help but wonder: What about him? What quirks is he hiding behind his perfectly curated Instagram persona? Does he also leave wet towels on the bed? Does he talk to himself in different accents for fun? Does he triple-check if the door is locked even after locking it?
And more importantly—is he working on his not-so-great habits too? Because me when dey work on myself no be mumu.
At the end of the day, though, it’s not about perfection—it’s about understanding. About accepting the little things that make each other human. Because honestly? I just hope he doesn’t get freaked out by mine.
Sorry, future hubby… not sorry. 😌
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